Gay fantasies

LGBTQ Sexual Fantasies and Shame

Ask any sex therapist and they will tell you the number one question they receive.

It’s “Am I normal?”

The fear that our sexual fantasies and desires are not normal is at the root of many sexual problems.

Sexual issues such as low libido, problems becoming and staying aroused, and difficulty reaching orgasm are some of the most common health issues today. Viagra and Cialis are among the best selling medications. Most of these problems have a psychological rather than physiological cause.

Sexual shame is often at the root of these sexual problems.

So let’s get to work on that.

A good place to start unpacking shame is to look at facts and research. And thankfully there has been some recent excellent investigate on human sexual desires.

Justin Lehmiller, PhD, is a leading human sexuality researcher at the Kinsey Institute. His book, Tell Me What You Want, outlines the results of his exhaustive study.

He asked over 4, Americans to answer questions about their sexual fantasies and practices. The research included participants from all sexual and

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From the Hit Me Up archives: Our resident agony aunt Rhona McAuliffe offers advice to a reader whose fantasy sex life is becoming a little bit too real.

Dear Rhona,

I’ve been with my husband for almost seven years now and we have two small kids together. Our sex life has been a adj, even when I was heavily pregnant, or we hadn’t slept in months, or my boobs were still leaking, miraculously, we still made time to be intimate.

We’ve always played around with different fantasies and role plays. A regular favourite of my husband’s over the last year or so has been a threesome involving another man. Our fantasy threesomes used to involve another woman so I was curious about her being replaced by a man from the start, mainly because I’m not turned on by the two men/ one woman scenario and struggle to get into it.

Now, when we’re having sex, my husband often gets totally carried away with dirty talk about this fantasy man. They’re kissing or getting it on and I don’t even feature. I’m no