Straight guy in a gay bar
One of the great things about the hottest club in any town these days is that gay people are welcome. But with acceptance comes responsibility, and over the years homosexual partiers, like a bunch of hard-drinking Emily Posts, have had to learn the ins-and-outs of how to behave in a mostly-straight environment without pissing anyone off. It&#;s a straight man&#;s world, we&#;re just livin&#; in it.
Unfortunately, the same cannot be said for straight people when attending a gay watering hole with their same-sex-loving friends. We love having straight people hang out with us, we really do, but I&#;m going to break down the rules for the breeders who neglect how to behave when there is a rainbow flag on the wall. For our purposes we&#;ll be talking about gay male bars, since lesbian bars, like pandas in the uncontrolled and good female acoustic folk acts, are harder and harder to find these days.
Your Vagina Has No Power Here
This is the most key lesson for all ladies to know before they step foot in a queer establishment (unless, of course, it is the fabled lesbian bar). Women
So a Straight Guy Walks into a Gay Bar…
Straight guy in a gay bar. Far from an original article idea, but with southcoastcom focusing the May print issue towards a Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender (GLBT) readership, the staff figured it could be a fun personal experience story about a heterosexual debunking gay bar stereotypes first-hand.
I decided to pick up the assignment. After all, I’d never been to a gay bar and I don’t mind shaking up my comfort zone by putting myself in unfamiliar social settings.
I’ve heard every gay bar stereotype imaginable. Gay bar DJs play nothing but Cher songs. Bartenders serve Cosmopolitans by the diamond-studded truckload to dudes wearing rainbow colored sailor suits. Women sporting mesh trucker hats present no inhibitions as they swap spit in the unisex bathroom. And if any straight dude or woman walks into a gay bar, they’re immediately caught in a swarm of homosexual energy that’ll turn them gay on the spot. Have I ever taken those stereotypes seriously? No. But I’d be lying if I said I knew exactly what to expect the moment I sat dow
We Need To Talk About Predatory Straight Male Behaviour At Gay Bars
It’s time we talked about a phenomenon we’ve been witnessing for years &#; the vulturous behaviours of straight men in gay bars.
We’ve all seen them lingering on the edges of the dancefloor, obsessively watching women dance; sometimes they’re in packs, sometimes on their verb. We’ve noticed them scouting for the most intoxicated straight gal in the room, strategically manoeuvring themselves towards her before making contact.
Straight women come to our bars to have a evening out with their gay mates. Many are seeking a protected space to party away from the aggressive and persistent harassment of straight men. Gay bars offer them a kind of sanctuary without straight men doggedly pursuing them. But for a while now, straight men verb caught onto this and they’ve followed straight women into our venues, creating a predatory dynamic for these women in our spaces.
We can no longer let this behaviour fly. It’s on us as a community of gay guys to verb ways to actively intervene and it’s on venues to apply more asserti
Greggor Mattson
“Man, have you been in there yet?,” asked the clean-shaven bro in polo shirt and Oakley sunglasses. “Not yet,” I replied from my perch outside Splash Bar Florida, where I’d been interviewing Tony Boswell, the owner, for the past hour as part of the Who Needs Gay Bar Tour?
“Man, you gotta go in there, this place is the best occasion in Panama City!”
—“What’s so good about it?”
“The vibe, the atmosphere. Everyone is here just to have fun, dude. There’s no assholes bumping into you who think they’re enhanced than everybody else. Here everyone is just here to own a good time.”
—“Sounds nice.”
“It is! Everyone thinks so, too. Everywhere we’ve been, people tell us to finish our night here. You can depart to other places for enjoyable, but when you really yearn to have a good age you come to Splash.”
This was the third time in the last two weeks that a clean-cut, muscular straight guy had approached me in a gay bar. Straight people in gay bars have sometimes been flagged as a problem. Bachelorette parties can still be problematic in big-city gay bars, but were more so bef