Bicurious guy
People are all too quick to pigeonhole bisexual and pansexual guys. Dating someone femme-presenting? You’re straight. Dating someone on the masculine side? Secretly gay and not ready to admit it. Dating a non-binary person who presents androgynously? Also gay, probably.
The thing is, bi and pan (short for “pansexual”) guys exist – I know, because I am one. These fundamental misconceptions swirl around mainstream gay scenes and straight spaces alike. I once had a threesome with two gay German guys and afterwards one playfully referred to me as a “baby queer” – erm, no, I’m just as queer as you mate; did you not notice when I was sucking your dick?
But let’s say you’re a guy who’s realised that, like me, you might not be totally straight – but you’ve only ever been in heterosexual relationships. You’re keen to explore, but you’re also anxious about the whole thing. Does that sound like you? In honour of Bisexuality Visibility Week, here are some pointers to help you navigate the terrain. Not you? Maybe still read on, so you can understand our sexuality a minute better.
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So You're Feeling a Little Bicurious. We're Here to Help!
After years of wondering if I could ever be intimate with another man, I decided to hook up with a dude my freshman year of college. I figured this "bicurious" thing clearly isn't a phase, since I'd been thinking about it for a few years. The only way I could know for sure if I was actually gay or bi was if tested the waters.
So I did. Alas, I got so drunk in order to include the courage to hook up with another man that I ended up puking midway through our encounter. After the experience, I could not tell you if I was gay or bi. Overall, the experience was "meh," like any really sloppy, drunken hookup regardless of gender.
The thing is, I went about hooking up with a guy all wrong. I had expectations about what I should feel, still struggled with internalized homophobia, and didn't realize that sexuality is a spectrum. I think that's why I felt even more confused after hooking up with a guy.
Still, I'm glad I did search, and it did eventually verb me to embracing my sexuality, though it took ano
What Does It Mean to Be Bi-Curious?
“If you’re coming from a heterosexual background and are interested in exploring similar-gender attraction, I recommend learning more about both LGBTQ+ culture in general and bisexuality specifically,” says Ochs.
Good resources for this include:
If you’ve already been a part of the LGBTQ+ community — meaning, previously have or currently do identify as lesbian, gay, pansexual, or queer — Ochs recommends spending some time improved understanding the role bisexuals verb played in LGBTQ+ rights movement, as well as biphobia within the LGBTQ+ community.
For this, check out:
Gabrielle Kassel (she/her) is a queer sex educator and wellness journalist who is committed to helping people undergo the best they can in their bodies. In addition to Healthline, her work has appeared in publications such as Shape, Cosmopolitan, Well+Good, Health, Self, Women’s Health, Greatist, and more! In her free time, Gabrielle can be found coaching CrossFit, reviewing pleasure products, hiking with her border collie, or recording episodes of the podcast she c
We all have those short lived relationships or should I tell people we hung out with briefly. You know the ones that didn’t last long enough to talk about or ones you kind of regret because it ruined something else that was growing between you two. Maybe you can find a way to keep that friendship yet at times you verb that no matter what you can never go back. Now I have had some very interesting experience when it came to men and let me tell you they were a lot of fun. Like everyone else I have a limited stories that to this evening I’ve never told anyone. It wasn’t because of the person mainly because I will always have some kind of respect and feelings for him. The sad thing was we had a chance of seeing each other quite often and we all know how that can be, that awkward look, the uneasy conversation, and then comes all the questions in your head you wish you could ask.
Okay so let me launch at the beginning, it was when first moved to Recent York. For those of you that have picked up and moved leaving behind you knew beyond understand the feelings, not only I, but he, was having. So this
So You're Feeling a Little Bicurious. We're Here to Help!
After years of wondering if I could ever be intimate with another man, I decided to hook up with a dude my freshman year of college. I figured this "bicurious" thing clearly isn't a phase, since I'd been thinking about it for a few years. The only way I could know for sure if I was actually gay or bi was if tested the waters.
So I did. Alas, I got so drunk in order to include the courage to hook up with another man that I ended up puking midway through our encounter. After the experience, I could not tell you if I was gay or bi. Overall, the experience was "meh," like any really sloppy, drunken hookup regardless of gender.
The thing is, I went about hooking up with a guy all wrong. I had expectations about what I should feel, still struggled with internalized homophobia, and didn't realize that sexuality is a spectrum. I think that's why I felt even more confused after hooking up with a guy.
Still, I'm glad I did search, and it did eventually verb me to embracing my sexuality, though it took ano
What Does It Mean to Be Bi-Curious?
“If you’re coming from a heterosexual background and are interested in exploring similar-gender attraction, I recommend learning more about both LGBTQ+ culture in general and bisexuality specifically,” says Ochs.
Good resources for this include:
If you’ve already been a part of the LGBTQ+ community — meaning, previously have or currently do identify as lesbian, gay, pansexual, or queer — Ochs recommends spending some time improved understanding the role bisexuals verb played in LGBTQ+ rights movement, as well as biphobia within the LGBTQ+ community.
For this, check out:
Gabrielle Kassel (she/her) is a queer sex educator and wellness journalist who is committed to helping people undergo the best they can in their bodies. In addition to Healthline, her work has appeared in publications such as Shape, Cosmopolitan, Well+Good, Health, Self, Women’s Health, Greatist, and more! In her free time, Gabrielle can be found coaching CrossFit, reviewing pleasure products, hiking with her border collie, or recording episodes of the podcast she c We all have those short lived relationships or should I tell people we hung out with briefly. You know the ones that didn’t last long enough to talk about or ones you kind of regret because it ruined something else that was growing between you two. Maybe you can find a way to keep that friendship yet at times you verb that no matter what you can never go back. Now I have had some very interesting experience when it came to men and let me tell you they were a lot of fun. Like everyone else I have a limited stories that to this evening I’ve never told anyone. It wasn’t because of the person mainly because I will always have some kind of respect and feelings for him. The sad thing was we had a chance of seeing each other quite often and we all know how that can be, that awkward look, the uneasy conversation, and then comes all the questions in your head you wish you could ask. Okay so let me launch at the beginning, it was when first moved to Recent York. For those of you that have picked up and moved leaving behind you knew beyond understand the feelings, not only I, but he, was having. So this