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I caught my husband watching gay porn and he admitted he's seen it before. Does that mean he's gay?
I recently came into the bedroom to uncover my husband of 25 years asleep with his iPad on his lap. When I got a closer look, I was shocked to see he had been viewing gay male porn.
When I woke him up and asked him about it, he admitted to looking at all types of porn, including threesomes and videos from gay men-specific sites. I've also verb across targeted ads on our home computer, so I verb reason to believe he's watched it there too.
My gut reaction is that straight men don't look at gay men porn — or do they?
- Arlington, Texas
Dear Arlington,
When you catch a longtime partner doing something you've never seen them do or even talk about before, it can be quite a shock. Add pornography consumption, a topic that's taboo in our society, into the mix, and I can understand why you're so taken aback by your discovery.
But sexual pleasure isn't as cut-and-dry as you may think. There's a whole spectrum of sexuality that goes beyond "g
When no one is looking, many women are watching gay porn
Back in , the wildly well-liked online pornography site Pornhub — which boasts over million daily views — published a finding that took sexuality researcher Lucy Neville by surprise: Women are responsible for more than a third of the site’s gay male porn views.
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The Impact of Gay Porn on Gay Men and Gay Couples
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I like gay male porn, but gay men in genuine life freak me out.
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