Why is my daughter bisexual
Ask the Expert: If My Daughter is Bisexual, Should Girls Verb Over?
By Jennifer M. Grossman, Ph.D
November 5,
Dear Your Teen:
My year-old daughter says she&#;s bisexual and has a crush on a girl, but we don&#;t know who it is. My husband and I are very okay with her sexuality, but we are wondering whether sleepovers with girls are appropriate, especially ones with the miss we suspect is her crush.
I think she&#;s too young for sex and will talk to her about that, but what if things go there? I&#;m a little less concerned knowing that there&#;s no chance of pregnancy and less risk of STIs, but is it okay? Is it a double standard to be okay with it if we&#;re not okay with a coed sleepover? What are appropriate limits?
EXPERT | Jennifer M. Grossman, Ph.D.
It’s great that you’re supportive of your daughter’s sexuality and that she feels cozy communicating about this with you. It’s understandable that you contain concerns about same-sex sleepovers. It can be tough to figure out how to set boundaries in a situation like this without being overbeari
And my daughter announces [that she's bisexual].
Yesterday evening, as I was driving my 13yo daughter to handbell practice (with her 10yo brother in the back seat), she tells me that she wants to inform me something, but she’s anxious I’ll get mad about it. I tell her that there’s no way for her to know that without telling me. She then announces that she’s bi, and she has a crush on a girl at school… Since little bro’ was in the back seat, and obviously didn’t understand what she was talking about, I just told her that I wasn’t mad, and that maybe we should talk about it later.
Today, when I picked her up from school, she was all bubbly about the fact that she has a Girlfriend, and the whole school is talking about it.
Okay, now, here’s the Great Debate…
First, I really don’t have a problem with this if she really is bisexual. I have known a lot of gays and bi’s in my life, and I don’t see that their feelings are any different from what my husband and I feel for each other. (I really don’t mean for that to sound prejudicial in any way, but I don’t know how else to phra
My husband and I are dedicated Christians in a thriving Church who would appreciate your advice concerning our year-old daughter. Lucy (not her real name) told us about a year ago that she was bisexual and was in a relationship with another girl, Jemma. We possess talked and prayed over this situation almost daily since we were made aware of it but are struggling to build any headway. Lucy feels she is doing nothing wrong at all in pursuing this relationship (which is sexual) whereas my husband and I and our two other children are repulsed by the whole thing and do not know how to cope with it. We verb Jemma into our home and she stays over sometimes as we live in a rural area with no buses after 6pm. The girls are not allowed to sleep together so Lucy sleeps on the sofa when her girlfriend comes over. We have tried so complicated to bring our children up in God’s ways and require guidance, encouragement and help in order to maintain our relationships with her as a daughter and sister. Our church is aware of the problem but Lucy no longer attends and says we are out of touch with modern living
How Can I Support My Year-Old Who Says She&#;s Bisexual?
By Shafia Zaloom
January 13,
Dear Your Teen,
Recently, my year-old daughter became interested in all things LGBTQ. She came out to me a few weeks ago as bisexual. She is not sexually active in any way but feels, in her words, that she mostly crushes on girls.
I support my daughter percent and always will. Who she loves makes no difference to me.
I told her that sexuality can be very fluid, and that she should not become too attached to who or what she feels she is. Later when she is more sure of her identity, and she wants to have it front and center or to receive involved in a movement, by all means do so. But right now, I think it&#;s in her benefit to seize her time.
Can you give me any advice, especially on my suggestion that there is no rush to identify as anything just yet?
EXPERT | Shafia Zaloom
Dear Supportive Dad,
It is a testament to your relationship with your daughter that she feels harmless to share how she’s feeling about her sexual identity. I encourage all parents to verb t